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unbreakablelife
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unbreakablelife
I am starting to prepare for pregnancy again. This time its going to be different. I will be using artificial insemination, and giving the baby away to the parents, basically I will be acting as a surrogate. I am from the UK so the baby will be legally mine until 6 weeks.

Has anyone else done this? Any advice?
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marshaldillon
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marshaldillon
Do you think giving a 7-11 year-old child 4-5 drops of tabasco sauce on a spoon is child abuse?  Grounding, writing sentances, corner time has not worked.  What other solutions do you have?
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mummoth
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mummoth
My 8 1/2 year old son is sick today... he's got a flu bug, threw up once but is sleeping for the most part. I kept my 6 year old daughter out of kindergarten, so my son wouldn't have to travel back and forth three times (we still have to go get the girl I watch after school) The kids step-dad suggested afterward that our son would have been okay while I ran my daughter up to school... how old do they have to be before you can leave them alone for 10 minutes? The school is a block away, he knows how to use the phone and I have a cell phone, if that makes any difference. We live in a 4-plex and know many of our neighbours. The furthest I've walked away from the house when one of the kids was in it is 2 doors down to check on the other kid playing in a friends' yard.

Last week, when my daughter had the same bug, I suggested to my son that he could walk to school by himself (something he's been asking to do for a year) and he said no, he wanted me to go with him. I walked him up and saw him across the road (side street, residential) to the school grounds, piggy-backing my daughter. I was comfortable with him walking to school because it's so close and there are lots of people walking up at the same time, so he wouldn't be ALONE-alone. He's walked ahead of me and gone home 'by himself' a lot before, he's careful when crossing the street and does a good job.

Eleven is the age here where kids are considered 'old enough' to babysit. The start middle school at the same age and it seems most of the kids walk to and from school by themselves at this stage. The middle school is about another 4 blocks beyond the elementary school. If eleven year olds are doing all that, I should probably start letting him push his boundaries a bit soon, right?
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karnythia
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karnythia
Kid #1 (10) has a persistent bully issue. The bully attacks a lot of the boys in their grade because they're friends with a specific girl on whom G's been fixated for a couple of years. Granted, my kid's not getting beat up (he generally wins) but he is having to fight this child on a fairly regular basis and it's getting old. The school is well aware of the problem, and they have suspended the other boy. A lot. But, G's parents are about as useful as damp paper towels when it comes to enforcing any kind of restrictions, so I'm pretty sure G thinks suspension = vacation. Aside from "Hit him harder" I don't really have any idea what to tell my kid to do, since he's fought back, it has been reported, and yet G keeps coming back for more. I'm well aware that G has some major home/emotional issues, but I'm at a point that I don't care about him as much as I care about my kid's well-being. I know the school is doing their best, but there's only so much they can do when the parents are willing to handwave obsessive violent behavior. Any ideas?
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landmage
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landmage
So, based on this tiny article stub (if anyone else has a longer article, I'd love to see it) about the situation, what are some thoughts? Do you buy that he's just trying to use language that the students will relate to, or do you think it's over the line?

http://www.ksfy.com/news/local/87461092.html
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unbreakablelife
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unbreakablelife
What time does your 6 or 7 year old go to bed on school nights? My two go between 7 and 7.30 and I just realised this has been the same since my son started nursery at 4. Does that sound too early?
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whimsicalmusing
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whimsicalmusing
First post, hello everyone!

I'm a SAHM and a student and I've been able to rely on relatives and very close friends to sit my kids when needed until now. I'm taking a class I need during the day when all my childcare resources are working. I'm looking for a sitter to watch my six month old (will be seven months when the job starts). On occasion I'll have my two year old home if he's home sick or the preschool has a holiday.

Any tips with regards to interviewing and hiring a sitter? I'm asking for references, backgrond check if they have it, CPR cert, and we'll meet in person. I'm not sure what questions to ask, and how to negotiate a rate. Our budget is pretty tight. How much per hour do you guys pay for sitter?


TIA.

Current Mood: hopeful hopeful

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karnythia
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karnythia
Kid #1's voice just dipped into the bass range. He is 10. I am not ready. Someone come make it stop. Or bring booze and chocolate. I thought I had another couple of years before this shit started. Puberty 101...any tips for survival?
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karnythia
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karnythia
Kid #2 (after a long period of not speaking) has decided to acquire every single word he hears. And repeat them. Over and over and over again. I'm glad he doesn't need speech therapy after all, but I'm ready to buy earplugs after a long morning of Mimic the Life. He's 3 and I don't want to discourage his new language acquisition, but I need tips on surviving this stage. Other than booze, what can I do?
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silveredmadness
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silveredmadness
My son is in kindergarten this year.

He has beautiful blonde cherubic curls all over his head. He came home the other day and told me  one of the boys in his preschool doesn't like him, and told him it was because he has curly hair. He was almost in tears over this.

He's wanted to cut his hair shorter for a while (it's not terribly long, but it takes very little to curl) but now I'm worried that if we cut it, it'll be because he feels like he needs to fit in, and not because he wants straighter hair. I don't want to inadvertantly support the idea that he needs to look a certain way to be liked.

I had a long talk with him about it. He acknowledges that he likes my hair (which is also curly) but says it's okay because I'm a girl. Apparently only girls have curly hair. I have no idea where this came from; he's never shown dissatisfaction with his hair before, and certainly I've never suggested anything like it. I suspect it came from the same kid who told him he doesn't like him. People coo over his hair all the time, so it's not like he doesn'.t have positive reinforcement that way.

Thoughts? I really did not expect body image issues to crop up in a six year old. :P A bit over my head.
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